FAMILY THERAPY

Does your child have difficulty getting to school, doing schoolwork?

Is your child defiant, arguing with you?

Does your child seem to be having emotional or relational struggles?

Has there been a crisis, loss or significant change in your family?

Are the adults in your family experiencing discord and conflict??
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REPAIR, HEAL AND RESOLVE ISSUES
THROUGH FAMILY THERAPY

REPAIR, HEAL AND RESOLVE ISSUES
THROUGH FAMILY THERAPY

FAMILY
THERAPY

NYC Family Therapy | Jan Nelson, LCSW-R Therapy Wellness NYC
NYC Family Therapy | Jan Nelson, LCSW-R Therapy Wellness NYC
Whether you're a family of two or a family of ten, perhaps with younger or adult children, family therapy provides a way to approach difficult discussions and effectively address the issues that may be tearing your family apart. 

Families struggle when someone is troubled. Perhaps there is a problem within the family, in school, or with friends. Or maybe your child is withdrawn, depressed, anxious, defiant, self-harming or has behavioral issues. Perhaps something has happened to your family such as a death, divorce, marriage or move. 

You’re worried about your family and have tried everything to help but nothing has worked. The deeper issues are sometimes learned about within the family itself. That’s where family therapy can help. While shame and fear might seem to protect a family, families find resolve and restoration when they seek therapy and begin talking openly and honestly. 
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HOW FAMILY THERAPY WORKS

It's very common if you and your family feel uncertain about starting family therapy. The question is, if you don't start now, how much longer can you endure the problem and what are the chances that the issue will be resolved on its own? 

I will begin by asking each family member to define the problem in their own understanding. Then we will look at the detailed history of the issue, who and what has been most/least affected by it, and unsuccessful attempts to “fix” the issue. We' may focus on:
  • Family issues, strengths and structure
  • Generational history 
  • Parenting styles
  • Relationships and rules within your family
  • Family communication styles
  • Repeated patterns and cycles
Once I have a thorough understanding about your family and how it functions, I will breakdown the components that seem to be contributing to the underlying issue so we can successfully rebuild together to create your healthier family unit.
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HOW I CAN BE OF HELP

My formal training in Structural Family Therapy through the Minuchin Institute for the Family, coupled with my experience as the Director of a child and adolescent crisis program at Bellevue Hospital, has provided me with the experience to provide exemplary services for your family.  

Helping families in immediate need is my priority. My work with your family is aimed at helping everyone to feel and do better, reconnect, repair and resolve, and establishing a balanced foundation for your family. 

In our work together, I will help your family by:
  1. Providing empathy and relating to your family struggles as a whole.
  2. Aligning with each family member and building rapport so everyone feels safe, supported and can trust me, our shared space and the process.
  3. Exploring how the problem began and how it remains to exist.
  4. Learning where the true problem may be.
  5. Identifying ideas that will help work towards resolution with a goal towards lasting change.
  6. Teaching family members new and different ways of listening and communicating with one another.
  7. Clarifying misunderstandings and presumptions which may have existed for years.
  8. Helping parents to fully understand their child and the issues at hand.
  9. Allowing family members to share personal and intimate details while feeling heard and safe in my presence.
  10. Teaching effective parenting skills and techniques to help manage unwanted behaviors.

WHEN TO SEEK FAMILY THERAPY

It may be that you have considered family therapy for quite some time.  Perhaps you've been noticing behavioral or emotional changes in your child that are causing you concern or perhaps there has been a traumatic event that has resulted in a change in your family dynamic.

If it's taken a while for you to realize you need to take action, that's OK; change is a process. If you've been contemplating the need for your family to make changes I can help.

Let me share with you some of the questions that can help you gain clarity as to whether family therapy may be of help.  If you're struggling with any of the following, please call me today so we can talk further:
  • Does it feel as if no one talks to anyone in your family anymore? And when they do, fighting and yelling is the major way of communicating?

    Family therapy provides intervention which allows each member of your family to talk openly and to learn deeper reasons for the conflict.  The strategies we'll employ together are designed to work with your entire family.

  • Do you feel that you're just going around in circles, never reaching a resolution?

    In family therapy, all members of your family have a chance to talk and listen. Everyone has an equal voice.  Many families suffer from unbalanced listening and communication skills, but my therapeutic support, expertise and intervention will allow everyone to have a chance to hear one another and be heard in a productive manner. Each problem is addressed so that we can problem-solve for true change within your family.

  • Does it feel like the problem is confined to one person's behavior—or rather, misbehavior?

    An important concept in family therapy is that it's not about just one person. Sometimes blame is placed on the child who seems to be creating the turmoil but it’s more important to look at the entire family system or the child merely carries the symptoms of the family which causes a ripple effect to the family. 

  • Do you want to teach your child that healing is possible—even in the face of conflict?

    Family therapy is an excellent way to show your child how talking openly can benefit and heal them.  It’s healthy for your child and shows that you, as a parent, are invested enough to seek therapy together.  It also gives your child a chance to see your growth and progress while setting a precedent for kids that it’s OK to get help. 

  • Do you have family secrets you don't want to talk about or expose?

    Family therapy is a safe place for secrets. One of the reasons people don't seek therapy when it may clearly be of help is that they fear secrets will be exposed.  Ultimately, this is where the problem lies and most find it liberating to share the truth. That means being vulnerable and this is what’s needed for truth, healing, growth and resolve.

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TAKE YOUR NEXT STEP TODAY

Please call me at 646.656.0597 or contact me via my Form below so we can talk about this together and schedule our first session so your family can start to heal.